tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43472459268113622442024-03-05T21:43:29.006-05:00Love, Human Style!!!This blog is not about interracial dating because there is no such thing. Humans are of different ethnicity's. Civilization, society, mores, background, tradition, customs, way of life=Ethnicity.HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-29232655662202001992008-08-08T17:07:00.004-04:002008-08-08T21:17:56.245-04:00I Love Mad Men!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJe5UsFxr3W2DOLRGl30RCgpF3SJ8vaiSNjrjPktJMoHOLz76v6xjNIEIqqUYLVt0Pdn2dMDNgPn_zrIvbobfOJxytNOziIoR9SJSusRZGC-EUZ8NvHLFVCeF14444t-dvk4qT7vC0dMJZ/s1600-h/sheila.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5232257150834839202" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJe5UsFxr3W2DOLRGl30RCgpF3SJ8vaiSNjrjPktJMoHOLz76v6xjNIEIqqUYLVt0Pdn2dMDNgPn_zrIvbobfOJxytNOziIoR9SJSusRZGC-EUZ8NvHLFVCeF14444t-dvk4qT7vC0dMJZ/s400/sheila.jpg" border="0" /></a> If you haven't checked out Mad Men, Sunday's at 10:00p.m. on AMC, you have to give it a try. The show is currently set in 1963, and it is such a totally different world than anything I've ever been exposed to on any television program. Absolutely one of the best written programs on the summer roster. Catch up on season one ON DEMAND.<br /><br />On Sunday's episode one of the main characters introduces his black girlfriend to one of his co-workers, and the female co-worker goes on to insinuate that he is only in such a relationship to prove how hip and progressive he is. It was an interesting exchange. That part of the plot was definitely an interesting point and something that has crossed my mind as a bw who dates inter ethnically.<br /><br />Would a white guy seek such a relationship to prove such a point?HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-48856917408154093022008-07-30T20:22:00.004-04:002008-07-30T20:34:17.082-04:00The Smart Guy is the Ticket!I have always been in awe of a guy who has a great command of the English language. Keith Olbermann of MSNBC's Countdown is the ultimate! I find this guy totally sexy. Say what you will, the thinking man will always win in my book. BW notoriously go for the hunk, but we should be thinking of the brainiac for the long haul. Senator Obama is another example of this theory, but that's a different story.<br /><br /><iframe height="339" width="425" src="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/22425001/vp/25130683#25130683" frameborder="0" scrolling="no"></iframe>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-87591439998641514382008-07-01T21:38:00.002-04:002008-07-01T21:50:37.500-04:00Shut Up!!!!Where is the respect. I first saw this incident when it originally aired on Dan Abrams' program and I was absolutely mortified. However predictable this might be from someone like Pat Buchanan, this kind of blatant disrespect should not be tolerated. I was SO happy that Rachael Maddow immediately, without mercy I might add, got with Old Pat.<br /><br /><br /><br /><object height="344" width="425"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/8r09eEMWDu4&hl=en&rel=0&color1=0x234900&color2=0x4e9e00"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/8r09eEMWDu4&hl=en&rel=0&color1=0x234900&color2=0x4e9e00" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-44996827553202098892008-05-19T19:40:00.003-04:002008-05-19T22:04:57.686-04:00Diaspora!!!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-iz8xeGjfLvFYJiuNYRLFdq1VSVeCuQInFCOsV4-ZXI6Avv0mUR9Ri7tP9tphEsvTU3BTOuF1SsRjz1507IWtLtxwZ60xRtte96IEdZNfPWrDDnB9Vrl6pO_8XoliMQ0jrfBQFWQt8rav/s1600-h/morehouse.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5202271347672525522" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-iz8xeGjfLvFYJiuNYRLFdq1VSVeCuQInFCOsV4-ZXI6Avv0mUR9Ri7tP9tphEsvTU3BTOuF1SsRjz1507IWtLtxwZ60xRtte96IEdZNfPWrDDnB9Vrl6pO_8XoliMQ0jrfBQFWQt8rav/s400/morehouse.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br />While watching the news last night, as I am hopelessly addicted to the current political climate and have been engaged in it tirelessly, CNN ran a story on Josh Packwood, the first white Valedictorian at Morehouse College in Atlanta.<br /><br /><br />I have to start by saying that some fine, intelligent AA men come out of Morehouse. They have put the stereotype of the young BM as thug, hopeless criminal, bound for prison to rest. What I found so striking and attractive about Mr. Packwood was that he seemed to have done something that a great deal of people refuse to do. LISTEN and open their minds to the reality that another group or ethnicity is faced with every day. I think he is a better person for it. During the interview I heard Josh use the word "Diaspora," I'm not positive, but I don't even think that I've heard white guys that I have dated use this term when directly referring to the African American community. At one point during the interview he was asked about the brother's on campus(I'm not quoting), or something to that affect, and without flinching an eye he stated that he feels that every Morehouse Man on that campus was his brother. How beautifully HUMAN! There was a small rumble about him being the Valedictorian. What a shame, because if a black person had earned the right to be class Valedictorian, and anyone did anything other than congratulate them there would be protests across America.<br /><br /><br />Please visit CNN.com to read the whole story, and sift through some of my possibly muddled points, and check out the pictures of this gorgeous young successful man.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.emailthis.clickability.com/et/emailThis?clickMap=viewThis&etMailToID=2008502562"></a>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-55664575649622897362008-03-30T22:49:00.018-04:002008-04-03T22:13:27.174-04:00Waiting in Vain?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-2IyrrWXr6JyV2Kyai_YL4sqOFQQf2JO8AhLVBvcTt7-0levibEleZM-ZIruFnQG3-KVl6V_TFlXqEwXFF5Tybup8BclK2Utt23LatmaJO2qYK-kkCJBX_swrLfsLky0tLqQdqgxaLdko/s1600-h/composite.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5183735710563903458" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-2IyrrWXr6JyV2Kyai_YL4sqOFQQf2JO8AhLVBvcTt7-0levibEleZM-ZIruFnQG3-KVl6V_TFlXqEwXFF5Tybup8BclK2Utt23LatmaJO2qYK-kkCJBX_swrLfsLky0tLqQdqgxaLdko/s400/composite.jpg" border="0" /></a>With so many women to choose from in the BC, why is there this resounding "BW don't want to date us," that always comes from WM. Everyday I hear black women that have previously stated that they would not, could not date a white guy, change that tune to - why the hell not!<br /><br /><br />When I was in college there was this black girl dating a white guy on campus, something happened, I don't exactly know what, but the girl was humiliated and ended up leaving and going to college elsewhere. I think the greatest thing dividing us, or keeping us from exploration is fear, albeit an irrational fear. Many of the BW that I know say that the absolute worse fear that they have would be being used by a WM to fulfill some sexual fantasy, and tossing them aside once they've had their fill. Let's face it we have all heard the quip by some WM, "do what you need to do, just don't take her home to mama!"<br /><br />Humiliation is a powerful thing. Who wants to go through something like that. Investing time, energy, and emotion in a relationship only to find out that you were a cheap thrill, or simply satisfying a curiosity. But can't the same be said about being with a BM.<br /><br />That works in both directions. Some BW are curious and try it out, test the waters see what its like if you will. Another big issue for many of the BW that I have spoken with would also be public acknowledgement. Dating is one thing, it is awkward initially because all eyes are on you for whatever reason. Once you move into the realm of "Relationship," I want that man to walk with me proudly with his head up high, as if to say "Yes, this is my woman!" <br /><br />I saw this video on Classical One's blog and it expressed perfectly what I wanted to say in today's blog. It is just too cute!<br /><br /><object height="355" width="425"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/wQkD839enFg&rel=0&color1=0x234900&color2=0x4e9e00&border=1&hl=en"><param name="wmode" value="transparent"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/wQkD839enFg&rel=0&color1=0x234900&color2=0x4e9e00&border=1&hl=en" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="373"></embed></object>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-27470146641008693142008-03-11T12:33:00.006-04:002008-03-11T20:54:00.250-04:00"Ain't I a Woman?" I Know I am!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg0jcdl1HVeItFRuNDSTmeTCarxlhmVXVQQVN_okJSGnr7tnUDvK3R0WZ1Uc1Xm98dlPVzH4DvDJkIvcvNPEzCnznaH4PWmHj_3SV5RY0AWSlH0bM_vhwXrSzQ8tgqSW7gcjytoVr_DMCv0/s1600-h/ain't+i+a+woman.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5176532612930533954" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg0jcdl1HVeItFRuNDSTmeTCarxlhmVXVQQVN_okJSGnr7tnUDvK3R0WZ1Uc1Xm98dlPVzH4DvDJkIvcvNPEzCnznaH4PWmHj_3SV5RY0AWSlH0bM_vhwXrSzQ8tgqSW7gcjytoVr_DMCv0/s320/ain't+i+a+woman.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><strong><em>...That man over there says that women need to be helped into carriages, and lifted over ditches, and to have the best place everywhere. Nobody ever helps me into carriages, or over mud-puddles, or gives me any best place! And ain't I a woman? - Sojourner Truth</em></strong></div><div><strong><em></em></strong></div><br /><div><strong><em></em></strong></div><br /><div>Lately, I've heard all of this talk surrounding why women should support Hillary Clinton for president simply based on the fact that she is a woman. I even heard that Oprah had gotten admonished by NOW because of her support of Senator Barack Obama. Well shame on the National Organization for Women. The last time I checked they spoke up for black women, namely the Rutgers Basketball team, only after being asked about the incident. They have been fairly silent on issues that affect AA woman. And to garner support for Hillary based on womanhood would be just as ridiculous as supporting Obama based on blackness.</div><div></div><div></div><div>Let's be honest, the blackness of the AA woman has always superseded her womanhood. Early on when the Suffrage movement was in full effect they only used black woman to speak to further their cause to secure their rights. Many sat idly by for the next 40 years before black women finally obtained full voting privileges in the south. Seems like we have been misused before in the woman ploy, but not this time, we've been bundled into the African American demographic when the media slices and dissects the who's voting for who. We don't get much interest in our voting patterns as women. So be it!</div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div>On the (Woman) front we don't get much interest or respect either. I can't tell the number of times a door has swung into my face, because some man (black or white) failed to keep it open for me. I am traditional and believe that this is what a gentleman would do. None the less, I am constantly pondering the question of AA womanhood. While our counterparts of every ethnicity have traditionally been well taken care of, helped into carriages, and lifted over ditches and such, we have basically had to do everything for ourselves. We have had to make the best places for ourselves. While a great many ww have been benefactors of the NFL, the NBA and whatever other financially prosperous organization, bw have had to educate themselves, procure careers and lead the household, with no confetti, praise or kudos.</div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div>I guess I just look forward to the day when bw are honored, and put up on the proverbial pedestal. It is our turn right? To be lavished and adorned with gifts and care, to get equal pay to our counterparts, because in many fields they make a great deal more money for the same job. I look forward to being petted and consoled at my every whimper. I want men of all ethnicity's to see bw for the human beings that they are, before they misjudge her as a loud obnoxious bw contributing nothing of value to society. We want the loyalty that some bw so readily reserve for bm that is often unwarranted. BW have a lot to give, and it is so totally being missed out on. One day soon, and I believe the time is now, someone will be up for the challenge to give bw what they have so long deserved. Which is...Sojourner alluded to it.</div><div></div><div></div><div></div>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-90649950142698331402008-02-20T20:47:00.007-05:002008-02-20T22:46:08.559-05:00GROSS!<span style="font-family:lucida grande;">A friend of mine expressed her discomfort at her husband watching porn the other day. She said that some of it was very gross. My impression was that her husband had been watching something involving animals and humans. Heck I don't know, I don't have an aversion to men watching the stuff, it's not particularly my thing, but anyway. So I asked my friend who happens to be a WW, what made it so gross? My friend said without batting an eye that a lot of it involved BW with WM. I asked her why that was gross in particular. She said "I don't know I just think it’s weird."<br /><br />Well, I didn’t pursue continuing the conversation, but it made me think. I thought about some standard female conversations at work, you know the kind when you talk about what actor is hot, and after mentioning some gorgeous white male, stone cold silence, or the typical assumption that WW are the cat's meow and are of superior beauty.<br /><br />Surprisingly to me these comments were not exclusive to ww. I was disturbed when one BW, after being told of Matthew McConaughey's Afro-Brazilian mate, commented why he would do that with all of those beautiful women in Hollywood, or another BW commenting that she was surprised that Barack Obama was married to a black woman.<br /><br />I look forward to the day when BW can be seen as simply women, of beauty, wit, strength, intelligence, and dignity. Black women exhibit dignity while being confronted by every negative element willing to portray her as a villain. Dignity through being unjustly represented by characters like New York (Tiffany) in the media. Dignity while being attacked by idiots like Mr. Imus and the black male comedians who supported and repeated his comments with zeal. Dignity every day while being passed over for promotions, and paid inadequately, with no complaints to boot!<br /><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Check out "a black women’s smile on you tube."<br /></span>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-87883216139079425002008-01-08T18:53:00.000-05:002008-01-08T20:19:44.592-05:00On Being Receptive?Hey Family!<br /><br />I have heard several times that Caribbean (West Indian), and African women are more receptive to multi ethnic relationships, more so than African American women. This kind of plays into the same insulting rhetoric as that lame light complexion dark complexion debate.<br /><br />I am from the Midwest, and as an African American woman I have many African American women friends, as well as friends from other ethnicity's. Many of my friends have dated men from different ethnicity's. Some say that they do not because they could not take possibly being used, or rejected in that way.<br /><br />I would never part my lips to say that I thought Italian men are more approachable and receptive to dating women of African American ethnicity. Who am I to make such a call! After all do we really care what region of the African diaspora the lady happens to hale from, content of character should really supersede all else. I really believe that a woman is receptive to a man who is receptive to her. Accept me as a human being first, and we can take it from there!HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-56848459135943573212007-12-08T16:38:00.000-05:002007-12-08T18:48:48.571-05:00Our Community<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDXqInONWvsPKk24g8h5V3MqIAOsrgB5I_UULnnXso2Iu15Vz4JxlkBFWTCRPUiDuhZuL-7RJJFcahHOBDVnZ1hxCqSDXexqrHetgo_oibt4R1k9ZiRuUVghz2l_XJTXCMZVjvDdT5zycb/s1600-h/cake+top.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5141721054049046754" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDXqInONWvsPKk24g8h5V3MqIAOsrgB5I_UULnnXso2Iu15Vz4JxlkBFWTCRPUiDuhZuL-7RJJFcahHOBDVnZ1hxCqSDXexqrHetgo_oibt4R1k9ZiRuUVghz2l_XJTXCMZVjvDdT5zycb/s320/cake+top.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div>"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has." Margaret Meade</div><br /><br /><br /><p>The word on the street is that our community is growing. Our Community. It's so exciting just to say those words. I stole the quote from another <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">blogger's</span> site <a href="http://sarasbloginterraciallove.blogspot.com/">http://sarasbloginterraciallove.blogspot.com/</a> , it rang so very true to me. There are literally thousands of men in the U.S who are now finding the (large ones) to ask a woman of a different ethnicity out on a date, and consider it more that a sexual conquest. By that I mean they have honorable intentions. <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEik7gJk1wnlC6X7bsyRPQJBjFteKDfOmLNx1sZx5pUbtGApFFLKgC4VU4VP7j4zm30Rwnapjm-l7BZdoIeYFr4tQc08_eGczwgMmV7R5ZYs3P-p4Em2HYLeNJBOr-I0iZsHi__57n3K0HjC/s1600-h/ilovethispic.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5141722312474464498" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEik7gJk1wnlC6X7bsyRPQJBjFteKDfOmLNx1sZx5pUbtGApFFLKgC4VU4VP7j4zm30Rwnapjm-l7BZdoIeYFr4tQc08_eGczwgMmV7R5ZYs3P-p4Em2HYLeNJBOr-I0iZsHi__57n3K0HjC/s320/ilovethispic.jpg" border="0" /></a></p><br /><p>I did a Google search for interracial love and I was quite surprised that the images were dominated by <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">bw</span> with <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">wm</span>. I have to say this made me smile, it let me know that the powers that be, whatever force that previously kept us from seriously pursuing one another has been hushed, but not silenced.</p><br /><p>It is such a privilege to be a part of this community. If nothing else it is encouraging to black women who may think that they are pigeonholed (to put aside indefinitely, as if intending to ignore or forget; shelve) into waiting for the black knight to suddenly come along and sweep her off her feet, which could actually happen, but why not explore all of the options that are ready, willing, and able. Black women often let people guilt us into submission with the usual crap like, "why would you trade teams?" or "white guys just use black women for sex." While we hear things like this, <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">bm</span> go out and and set the town ablaze with who they want, when they want, with no admonishment or complaints from anyone black or white.</p><br /><p></p><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5141734703455113474" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgq7PkONWkGhG9EfMi3g2O7oAyDkSBZHWBocVBE3dY9A-rwx2_0C87hQ7zOsB5pi4LRLsDRhnJykxQPMzJ8aP08IgPh4R1d_3hkcGBhy9Ei8F64MpkC-pSA_igmr_tBGLJYPe16tcMk8_D9/s320/manwoman.jpg" border="0" />So I celebrate all of the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">blogger's</span> who write insightful and encouraging words, and provide us with information on this journey. If only we had clubs set up in major cities to make love connections, who knows maybe that's next.<br /><br /><br /><br /><p></p>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-16323107216242267522007-11-21T22:24:00.001-05:002007-11-29T23:05:53.374-05:00The DisclaimerWhen I was in High school I had a conversation with a friend about something that her father said. She was talking to her dad about someone with the same name that I have (Heather) who happened to be a multi-ethnic person. Her dad thought she was talking about me and his reply was "well Heather is a pretty girl, but she is most certainly not mixed." The statement really had nothing to do with the conversation which caught me off guard. At that moment the real world hit a naive 16 year old in the face, and I understood how people had varying ideas of beauty. I was presented with a pretty adult theme at an early age. In essence, I discovered that there was a standard of beauty that I would have to rebel against and continue to rebel against and challenge to this day. <p></p><p>I am the girl next door dammit, yes in all my deep dark hue! Even though my awakening was nearly 20 years ago, things have not changed they have continued to worsen in some instances, and get better in others. When did having multi-ethnicity become the standard when beauty is concerned. </p><p><param name="movie" value=""><p>I have also come to realize that not only AA people are afflicted with this mind set. I heard a ww say to me that she would only have a child with a bm because they always "came out more beautiful." What!!!! It's time for a mind cleansing. I won't go for the "everyone is beautiful in their own way line," but come on, something has got to give.</p><p>I've said it before I like all types of men, I am known for expanding my options to the tenth power. I don't limit myself to one group or the other either. That being said, how many songs are written about "light skinned good hair babes," as ignorant as that is, by bm. I would never accept any comment from a bm about dating someone of another ethnicity.</p><p>Bottom line, celebrate those who are not often celebrated . Yeah, a shout out to the bw, whether she be African, African American, Caribbean, or whatever. Your beauty is acknowledged and acceptable.<br /><br /></p>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-6410807530388133022007-11-20T19:58:00.000-05:002007-11-22T20:34:02.010-05:00Ode to Scotsman<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgC__Pk2IjUMglbboa-w1s7KswHIKCahWO4HuI3pZItCntXhaP6DgwAgwdDoQ7SzdZ1nFzdDBgd3A7Q1U6PsHMAbXB7_veRASIXiAu23vV-XF-oJ6LD46t0YxsWBRzePWaUbnHUr5-ESR4J/s1600-h/ewan.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5135102487174403954" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgC__Pk2IjUMglbboa-w1s7KswHIKCahWO4HuI3pZItCntXhaP6DgwAgwdDoQ7SzdZ1nFzdDBgd3A7Q1U6PsHMAbXB7_veRASIXiAu23vV-XF-oJ6LD46t0YxsWBRzePWaUbnHUr5-ESR4J/s320/ewan.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><div><div><div>This is just an opportunity for me to make a few observations, and indulge in something whimsical, <span style="color:#000000;">i.e</span>... eye candy. We have already discussed the fabulous Gerard Butler - he's my number one Scotsman - but there are other Scotsman with just the right combination of charisma and sex appeal.</div><br /><div>First, there's Ewan McGregor, what an adorable big crooked tooth smile. He might not be the <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgf2NB54DVZcKGyIus084yHFkICxyDS4sXUEKk3Z9-fHtRK9FjZFQ5MLbSPEndAGPX_Fbo298FZB7QBTjfDC9O6P35qMPVRcFLY2050FkHpsfS8EXVUups7-61dPspBOZTqwPADLsZ8-b4t/s1600-h/e2.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5135099308898604866" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgf2NB54DVZcKGyIus084yHFkICxyDS4sXUEKk3Z9-fHtRK9FjZFQ5MLbSPEndAGPX_Fbo298FZB7QBTjfDC9O6P35qMPVRcFLY2050FkHpsfS8EXVUups7-61dPspBOZTqwPADLsZ8-b4t/s200/e2.jpg" border="0" /></a>tallest, most muscular but if you've seen the film "The Pillow Book," you already know that he has some other interesting attributes. He seems to have been the only choice in the Star Wars prequels for Obi Wan Kenobi, a perfect fit. Currently Ewan stars in a London production of Othello with Chiwetel Ejiofor at the Donmar Warehouse, November 30, 2007 thru December 23, 2008. </div><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj9FL6yjcmk_Dp2L4nzq25lqWbHoLcC2RdaYLZzSK0NyIEBT93XJjQ66ezxzw7kX1VF9yAecORCXu8cAG5T3cdAd0WzWxyqlUUfnwdr5iS197W2zIsXgcxc4NDshfnJwgV312hHJqJn8cWZ/s1600-h/kevin.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5135101370482906962" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 103px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 116px" height="187" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj9FL6yjcmk_Dp2L4nzq25lqWbHoLcC2RdaYLZzSK0NyIEBT93XJjQ66ezxzw7kX1VF9yAecORCXu8cAG5T3cdAd0WzWxyqlUUfnwdr5iS197W2zIsXgcxc4NDshfnJwgV312hHJqJn8cWZ/s320/kevin.jpg" width="136" border="0" /></a>If you've watched Journeyman on NBC you might have noticed Kevin McKidd, who also starred in the HBO series "Rome." Very rugged, hard as nails look. Rome is a pretty good series, although some things were frustrating, namely the choice for Cleopatra, but I digress. Kevin is a noteworthy Scotsman, built to a tee.</div><br /><br /><br /><br /><div>Finally, James McAvoy, the name might not be familiar, but if you get a chance to catch "The Last King of Scotland," he stars alongside Forest Whitaker. Forest owns the movie, his performance warranted every bit of the Oscar he received for the role. James McAvoy turned in an impressive performance as well, not overstated or strained in contrast to the leading role. He might be a little guy, but he can hold his own in the mass appeal department.</div><div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5135106696242354098" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7xlxO6kk5DTcDncsvlxnRRJTG74uyifZE8IENY05q5vA6p8SiauKXWEofJILlnP6IC5hUtO-uyrFxhuaLl43IGzjf0KgIZCRLIJS3A0VpTo3liYEp2UunhyMUd9gPowtVtnq7JXoUO8Sc/s320/james.jpg" border="0" /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPqx0pd3ssWoYXroLWu61jF8NePVkhnpSGxPxzdqzaDGV_BLvxyK06QD33BO_Hvelumxw8VE_AWZyJnYgHYIDZXWDW5ojCXJmhuT9FoaQUSPYEieq6MAExygKcxV-7LFux9K_MqgBHR_Fh/s1600-h/james.jpg"></a></div></div></div></div>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-10425138336127906532007-11-14T21:29:00.000-05:002007-11-14T21:35:52.072-05:00Quick note on natural hairI feel the pain of natural bw everywhere. Recently I discovered two products that work for wash and wear. Carol's Daughter products are a celebrity fave, and can be found online at: <a href="http://www.carolsdaughter.com/">http://www.carolsdaughter.com/</a><br /><br />My personal favorite is Miss Jessie's hair products. My younger cousin introduced me to this product and I can't get enough. <a href="http://www.missjessies.com/">http://www.missjessies.com/</a>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-41204004480036030072007-11-13T19:16:00.000-05:002007-11-13T20:11:30.908-05:00If I like it, baby you should love it...<div>An acquaintance recently told me that <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">wm</span> don't date women with natural hair (unprocessed). I was shocked to say the least. She went on to say that why would a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">wm</span> want to run around town with some "<em>nappy"</em> headed woman. Yeah she went all IMUS on me.</div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5132485949497690834" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHcO670q0Z09uihBk26fAxAVUrXMPHq_PClumSkL33vrqtt-4VARUWAUvwZ-UvFnJWaBZ2QwGE4njlbcGELeJgoLBZWaR0KqhbmH9TsJi4cCjpy80in6DbW6nEMMltwvqVqAtWWn0P_-CR/s320/hair.jpg" border="0" /></div><br /><br /><p>I don't happen to believe this is true. Point one: when will we stop berating ourselves by using a derogatory term to describe the way our hair grows out of our heads. Why is it offensive to so many of us? Point two: If a man cares about you as a person he should be planting his fingers right in your fro, <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">locs</span>, braids, or whatever natural or processed style you decide to wear. I wore a perm for years, grew it out and have now gone natural and the men who find <strong>me</strong> attractive have not changed. Wm still look when I wear twist, and they look when I decide to press my hair out. I have not noticed any difference. </p><br /><p></p><br /><p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgTcVB_P1UAncHMeyyDVfAUbGZ3HAa7vWNBpxlQg6ORD7B1ujKuiI-tgGFOiZuy_Lg0wpy1BZgpnU1FoRYSZ0KHsWqD80SmEV7komlqew_gpSxS6K1kWszJ69sjT3S2B-OwOH_-PoiK74gW/s1600-h/wmbw+love.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5132495699073452770" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgTcVB_P1UAncHMeyyDVfAUbGZ3HAa7vWNBpxlQg6ORD7B1ujKuiI-tgGFOiZuy_Lg0wpy1BZgpnU1FoRYSZ0KHsWqD80SmEV7komlqew_gpSxS6K1kWszJ69sjT3S2B-OwOH_-PoiK74gW/s320/wmbw+love.jpg" border="0" /></a>Hey, if you like your natural hair, then he should love it. Someone who had an issue with natural hair would definitely not be someone I would have a relationship with, but that's me. But it goes far beyond what a man likes and dislikes. What makes us denigrate ourselves and believe that there is something ugly or horrible about the kinky state in which our hair naturally grows. I think it's time to look in the mirror and love who's looking back at you, no matter how you wear your hair. Stop the self hate. It is my sincere belief that men love women who are confident, and lasting relationships are those involving two people who love and respect each other authentically! As well as respecting each others authenticity.</p>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-84411256717863391742007-11-12T17:40:00.001-05:002007-11-12T19:43:32.839-05:00For Bessie<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyI0MLByOPMYJR1yKoipiTkktBcztTpGhsimCk2uy1QFX2tfv3Q1YKmxm1fwuLsDVoHByVD9mhd-eX-7_REfj3liYeV5BBF60a2apEXtfF3DTpIXe0x5WGB4sBgQ8kpD6iHGAZ_bv4ovqm/s1600-h/180px-Coleman-Bessie_01.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5132087754489744050" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyI0MLByOPMYJR1yKoipiTkktBcztTpGhsimCk2uy1QFX2tfv3Q1YKmxm1fwuLsDVoHByVD9mhd-eX-7_REfj3liYeV5BBF60a2apEXtfF3DTpIXe0x5WGB4sBgQ8kpD6iHGAZ_bv4ovqm/s400/180px-Coleman-Bessie_01.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhjlNH5kQshLJl2hwiqQYFlZvxD0SrIWbB61W67w_VGW-bC1U2DZNvkrV96vZzDAqRv79DUqEuPmFUVxSnW3ZTsr5yeDAiVTJeqE7DZeOr73P8npkEMmXh9n756k0giDzCAAv24RwSbptPy/s1600-h/aearhart.jpg"></a><div><br /></div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5132087960648174274" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0kFcKbCkqRN8RceyJUVlIHIT1-IpGs9dsTI1zV1L4_zIjCVzu2xwCj3Esd5-yDrCcWr9XSFZHMktsLV5bk20ub_uHghnKjX6vlUo5EHeNFs23ZLvLglACPDOWsQWehw16pYEG27CtKlhX/s400/180px-AE.jpg" border="0" /><br />When I was a youngster I was fascinated with Amelia Earhart and I learned everything about her. I was so impressed with this woman. How adventurous she was, flying around the world at the helm of an airplane during a time when most women rarely worked outside of the home.<br /><br />After I had graduated from college I discovered Bessie Coleman. Without giving a full blown history lesson, "Queen Bess" as she was fondly called, was the first African American woman to become a licensed pilot, and the first <strong><span style="color:#330000;">American </span></strong>woman to hold an international pilots licence. She was first in her field. Something quite extraordinary for a woman, let alone an African American woman. So why had I not heard of her until after I had completed my primary, secondary and higher education. Both of these women achieved so much in their short lives. Both were pilots during the 1920's, and both died early to tragic ends. We all know why we did not know Bessie's name, and it's very unfortunate.<br /><br />Today is a new day. We have the opportunity to celebrate the milestones and accomplishments of all women. Let's not accept only what is presented to us. Dig deep! You would be surprised by some of the accomplishments made by women of all ethnicity's that you come up with. One day soon we won't have to dig for the information, it will be presented in the same manner as any other woman of note.<br /><br />To get the full 411 on Bessie Coleman visit: <a href="http://www.bessiecoleman.com/">http://www.bessiecoleman.com/</a><br /><br />....Up next, I have got to talk about the Curb your enthusiasm season finale.HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-9703403009429802842007-11-09T18:00:00.000-05:002007-11-09T20:56:47.902-05:00How do I love Gerard, let me count the ways<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg4GJ8DKYmAz7QnfSgt4DZ6hoavh_EF8dmxMj-aR_7EmpakoloKAwZZG0QN7ObsrBKIgSohRnVJ0wCRbztSlMrdmYl2JWEoABnq1A2yqoUvh4WGTINLJ_1WmylHA6B5QNDdIaprV2MersqY/s1600-h/gbad3.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5130984738168654466" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg4GJ8DKYmAz7QnfSgt4DZ6hoavh_EF8dmxMj-aR_7EmpakoloKAwZZG0QN7ObsrBKIgSohRnVJ0wCRbztSlMrdmYl2JWEoABnq1A2yqoUvh4WGTINLJ_1WmylHA6B5QNDdIaprV2MersqY/s320/gbad3.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><p>I'll start by stating that you can go to any blog authored by an African American women and most likely find a photo of this guy posted on it. Love him, love him, love him. Personally, I can't get enough of him. He is quite masculine, sans the fake machismo and bravura. Handsome doesn't come close when describing that gorgeous face. Wit for days.</p><br /><p>So what makes so many brown girls crazy for this man. I believe it's the fact the he sees what he likes and he goes after it, and doesn't care who knows it. He seems to be well mannered, and very respectful. But it's something more than that. Watch this, it says it all:<br /><br /><div><embed pluginspage="http://www.macromedia.com/go/getflashplayer" align="middle" src="http://vid.adbrite.com/video/abplayer.swf" width="468" height="400" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" flashvars="vid=3475" quality="best" bgcolor="#ffffff" allowscriptaccess="sameDomain"></embed></div><br /><br /><br /><p></p><p></p><p><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOVoqmusBz8M-wYIWaxOGpb9fSMrXtxv2cTi-SYe1rvqyVFOWf_Exq1ul_AnOpsVZ4NjY5h18oYA812v6lgaJGhQ-_G8ubbO1Mj4bQeOC4rshn02Z_qxKGgKxgylJIg7PsQMwp-YP4x67a/s1600-h/gbad1.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5130987989458897554" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOVoqmusBz8M-wYIWaxOGpb9fSMrXtxv2cTi-SYe1rvqyVFOWf_Exq1ul_AnOpsVZ4NjY5h18oYA812v6lgaJGhQ-_G8ubbO1Mj4bQeOC4rshn02Z_qxKGgKxgylJIg7PsQMwp-YP4x67a/s400/gbad1.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /></p><p align="left">What did I tell you, there is something really special about this man. SO SMOOTH! In a suit all G'd up or in jeans relaxed and casual he is so fine. As former President Bill Clinton stated when asked why so <em>many</em> black folks loved and respected him, he simply said "we love the people who love us."</p>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-27847147967915548172007-11-08T17:59:00.000-05:002007-11-09T18:00:22.034-05:00Excuse me Mr. Maher!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGR3kim33ya2sf_Qcg6GHDDyoOGJrTEIVKBpiCTbni7BXaPKS3deKBeaSQ916amXA58zhqgTSMz0BfcF7WiXyojQWsa0sD8_evM5mXpRsZsHdTRfv4BupWSrLJs2uvIlWebjgxYhZkGCZO/s1600-h/bill+and+bwn.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5130608846925875810" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGR3kim33ya2sf_Qcg6GHDDyoOGJrTEIVKBpiCTbni7BXaPKS3deKBeaSQ916amXA58zhqgTSMz0BfcF7WiXyojQWsa0sD8_evM5mXpRsZsHdTRfv4BupWSrLJs2uvIlWebjgxYhZkGCZO/s320/bill+and+bwn.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><p></p><p>Recently, while watching Real Time with Bill <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Maher</span></span>, Bill stated that many of the black women <em><strong>that he knows</strong></em> did not care whether or not OJ Simpson (I dislike even writing the name) did beat and kill his estranged wife, they still really liked OJ. On his show the week that the Don Imus story broke he stated that he doubted whether many 21 year old black women even knew who Don Imus was until the story broke. I thought "oh my GOD this man is obnoxious," how dare he speak for black women, even the one's that he knows, and how dare he be so presumptive to conclude that younger black women did not know who Don Imus was. </p><p>I thought about this long and hard. Mr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Maher</span></span> is often applauded in many circles for being a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">wm</span></span> who openly and <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">unapologetically</span></span> dates <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">bw</span></span>. Many folks that I've talked to have admired his choices in <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">bw</span></span> - the dark complexioned shapely <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">bw</span></span>. My thoughts are as simple as this, just because you date <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">bw</span></span> and love being with them does not mean that you can speak for them. I don't want another black women speaking for me, or representing (misrepresenting) me without my input or say so, let alone someone like Mr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">Maher</span></span> who has a forum like Real Time. What I found most offensive, is how insensitive he was and how his statements were presented as fact when they were nothing more than his opinions. After all he does not know the sentiments and feelings of all of the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">bw</span></span> that he does know.</p><p>Ultimately, I guess my expectations are that a man like <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_10"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_10">Maher</span></span> has an opportunity to dispel myths and generalizations. He seemed to do the opposite. It was alarming. When dating I want the MAN I'm with to protect my honor. I'm not saying that I want a man that agrees with every position or opinion that I have, but I don't want him to be on the opposite side of the fence either. </p><p>I used to know this white woman who was dating a black guy at the time. She told me right in front of him that he did not like black women, and would never consider dating one. The guy nearly fell on the floor. He said that the statement was absolutely not true, and he was hurt that she had formed this <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_11">inaccurate</span> impression of him. I wonder if this is the way that some of the black women that Mr. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_12"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_11">Maher</span></span> spoke for felt? </p>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-4542159925878790612007-11-07T19:03:00.000-05:002007-11-07T19:40:29.993-05:00If you feel froggy - LEAP<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaYCPRKLZuJ5O4RMWD00KnkLAlfUWSNdIyijHWgHPzklHVklSBkBqbZ4dYbAjc_zJbgadOsnc6zZ7yJWdCLyumtwRmtpkibLmiYCORhyphenhyphenFwe5pmhz5mNUpfKug2NlvjSQObumdj1pmovY1_/s1600-h/frogstack.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5130262874425281106" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaYCPRKLZuJ5O4RMWD00KnkLAlfUWSNdIyijHWgHPzklHVklSBkBqbZ4dYbAjc_zJbgadOsnc6zZ7yJWdCLyumtwRmtpkibLmiYCORhyphenhyphenFwe5pmhz5mNUpfKug2NlvjSQObumdj1pmovY1_/s200/frogstack.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>I am a tall statuesque African American woman. I don't look like <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Halle</span> Berry, but I am quite attractive, even if I say so myself. Deep dark complexion with reddish undertones. No I am not a bone, shapely in all of the right places. My point is this, I catch guys of various ethnicity's checking me out all day, so why don't they have the courage to say something, ANYTHING.<br /><br />I hear a lot of talk about African American women being resistant to the idea of dating a non-AA male. I don't know where this is coming from. I am single and have loads of single healthy attractive <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">bw</span> friends, and they are ready and willing, they are confronted with the same dilemma that I am confronted with. The <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">wm</span> or non-<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">bm</span> will not take that leap of faith.<br /><br />What is the worse thing that could happen......She's married. She has a boyfriend. She is not interested. Please remember that many <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">bw</span> are very traditional and would never make the first move. If you approach her in a respectful manner I think you might be surprised at the response.</div>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4347245926811362244.post-7915996024983447632007-11-06T21:05:00.000-05:002007-11-06T22:06:44.446-05:00What's it all about,Alfie?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi3XsAqs3e1gCn08owTNTcOMiPgeDdxm2bSnkAGx3Q2i8OQyIyJWAzzVoqyJfyGoTTDd00uWKtDx4qJoajgY0NeWoa93o_SKDbPzhmLMb-kFDrSxWTbYfjmW-9-6lZy5VL0qhJjr5tzngaN/s1600-h/wmbw3.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5129914596758394962" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi3XsAqs3e1gCn08owTNTcOMiPgeDdxm2bSnkAGx3Q2i8OQyIyJWAzzVoqyJfyGoTTDd00uWKtDx4qJoajgY0NeWoa93o_SKDbPzhmLMb-kFDrSxWTbYfjmW-9-6lZy5VL0qhJjr5tzngaN/s200/wmbw3.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div>According to many of today's scientist the term race is outdated and imprecise. Why do we hold on to terms that were designed to be divisive? Even the most liberal people use the term <span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;color:#ff0000;"><strong><em>race</em></strong></span> to describe persons of different ethnicity's. What about people who are of two or more ethnicity's, then we refer to them as bi-racial. This is the goofiest approach to a very human condition. Confusing!!! With the continuation of the separatist term it makes it very hard to move past insignificant differences and move towards understanding and reconciliation.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>When I saw the remake of the movie Alfie, I was so excited because the ethnicity of the characters was irrelevant. The fact that Alfie's best friends girlfriend and his best friend were of another ethnicity did not come up. It felt so natural and real. And how courageous for all of the actors involved to step outside of Hollywood's neat little box of who should be with whom.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>We have never learned to communicate about ethnic issues in a healthy manner. I believe that people have been conditioned by the race label and it continues to lead us down a path of dist ruction.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>I am an African American woman, and this is the only term I know to express my ethnicity. I have dated many different types of men. I tend not to designate them as white or black, but by ethnicity as it should be. I dated a Scottish guy, which was fantastic, a Filipino/Mexican guy, an Italian, and many African American guys, even a Haitian guy who I married and divorced. Guess what, they had one thing in common, they were HUMAN.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div>HeatherChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16436297162269761894noreply@blogger.com2