Hey Family!
I have heard several times that Caribbean (West Indian), and African women are more receptive to multi ethnic relationships, more so than African American women. This kind of plays into the same insulting rhetoric as that lame light complexion dark complexion debate.
I am from the Midwest, and as an African American woman I have many African American women friends, as well as friends from other ethnicity's. Many of my friends have dated men from different ethnicity's. Some say that they do not because they could not take possibly being used, or rejected in that way.
I would never part my lips to say that I thought Italian men are more approachable and receptive to dating women of African American ethnicity. Who am I to make such a call! After all do we really care what region of the African diaspora the lady happens to hale from, content of character should really supersede all else. I really believe that a woman is receptive to a man who is receptive to her. Accept me as a human being first, and we can take it from there!
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I concur accept me for me. However, I would appreciate it if anyone could tell me exactly when did blk. females become "gold diggers?"...although I have a feeling rappers started that movement. I for one am so tried of reading about how bw will give a ww/bm couple nasty looks. I have been in a few stores when either the ww or the bm will purposely make a little noise so that I will turn and look at them. One day I was in line at the grocery store focusing on my grocery items when I decided to take a look around to see who was near and that is when I realize this ww with her bm had been staring at me. We looked at each other and I went back to focusing on what I was doing. A minute later, I looked around checking out what was going on in the store and that same ww was still staring at me...now if I would have said something such as, "Why are you staring at me?", then I would have been in the wrong. There have been a few times when a bm with his ww would talk a little loud just so I could turn to see him with her. Sometimes, I just have to laugh to myself. After, reading blogs such as yours and some bm's online profiles I have become less and less surprise when I see a ww/bm couple...being from the south, yes people still look. On the other hand, a wm/bw couple is still a big surprise and thankfully bw as a whole are starting to look outside the community. We have to look outside the bc since so many bm do not wish to marry only date; but, same man will marry a non-blk. female...WTF? Ladies, I agree it is time for us to wake up to the doulbe standards that is going on in the blk. community. We desire to be married, loved, secured both mentally, emotionally, and financially just like other race females. Ann
We have to look outside the bc since so many bm do not wish to marry only date; but, same man will marry a non-blk. female...WTF?
I know what you mean. I know a beautiful bw and I mean beautiful whose exboyfriend dated her for 10 years went on vacation met a latin woman proposed to her, started planning the wedding and did not tell the this woman that he was getting married to this other woman until the weekend before the wedding. Now if he wanted to marry another woman, that's fine. It is just the way he handled it. She was devastated. Karma is a bitch.
I do think that it's more accepted in some cultures than others. I am a first generation American from West Africa and though it's not preferred, it is certainly more accepted than it is in African-American culture.
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I have to agree that it can sometimes be true that people of a certain culture can be more predisposed or more accepting of IR's than others. I don't think it anymore crazy to state that Europeans tend to more open generally to IR's than Americans, than to say that Europeans tend to be more accepting of seeing displays of nudity/sexuality on tv than Americans. This is a cultural truth, rather than a fundamental truth (even though it is a generalization). While it doesn't necessarily tell you whether or not a particular individual is accepting of IRs, IMO it is nevertheless still a general cultural truth.
also, west indians are and come from mixed backgrounds, so maybe thats why they're more accepting
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