Wednesday, February 20, 2008

GROSS!

A friend of mine expressed her discomfort at her husband watching porn the other day. She said that some of it was very gross. My impression was that her husband had been watching something involving animals and humans. Heck I don't know, I don't have an aversion to men watching the stuff, it's not particularly my thing, but anyway. So I asked my friend who happens to be a WW, what made it so gross? My friend said without batting an eye that a lot of it involved BW with WM. I asked her why that was gross in particular. She said "I don't know I just think it’s weird."

Well, I didn’t pursue continuing the conversation, but it made me think. I thought about some standard female conversations at work, you know the kind when you talk about what actor is hot, and after mentioning some gorgeous white male, stone cold silence, or the typical assumption that WW are the cat's meow and are of superior beauty.

Surprisingly to me these comments were not exclusive to ww. I was disturbed when one BW, after being told of Matthew McConaughey's Afro-Brazilian mate, commented why he would do that with all of those beautiful women in Hollywood, or another BW commenting that she was surprised that Barack Obama was married to a black woman.

I look forward to the day when BW can be seen as simply women, of beauty, wit, strength, intelligence, and dignity. Black women exhibit dignity while being confronted by every negative element willing to portray her as a villain. Dignity through being unjustly represented by characters like New York (Tiffany) in the media. Dignity while being attacked by idiots like Mr. Imus and the black male comedians who supported and repeated his comments with zeal. Dignity every day while being passed over for promotions, and paid inadequately, with no complaints to boot!

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5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Yes, ww think that they are superior. Well guess what? they are about to find out that they are not.

Anonymous said...

IMO, I suspect that what actually "grosses out" your friend is the unwanted (and scary) revelation she now has of what her husband truly finds sexually attractive. She doesn't want to admit this to herself, so she shuts down her own internal dialogue (and, perhaps, the dialogue she should be having with her husband) over the fact that she may not really be the woman of his dreams and fantasies. If she were honest with herself, and had an honest dialogue with her husband, her whole world of beliefs in her own WW superiority and in the general unattractiveness of BW to WM, would come tumbling down. Previously she's felt safe in the belief that the charms of other WW and perhaps a few AW were the only ones she might have to compete with in her relationship with her husband. Now an unexpected factor has entered into the mix, and she doesn't know how to deal with and protect herself against this knowledge other than to deem it "gross".

Anonymous said...

Great point sandra!

Taylor-Sara said...

I agree sandra. The truth is there in nothing as sexy, desirable, and overwhelmingly intoxicating as a beautiful black woman. When sistas wake up and realize their power OMG it's gonna be on!!!

Anonymous said...

I guess the queen has been dethroned.
Yes white women's so called superiority is crumbling like an idol and the white women are losing their minds over this uncomfortable reality.