Waiting in Vain?

With so many women to choose from in the BC, why is there this resounding "BW don't want to date us," that always comes from WM. Everyday I hear black women that have previously stated that they would not, could not date a white guy, change that tune to - why the hell not!


When I was in college there was this black girl dating a white guy on campus, something happened, I don't exactly know what, but the girl was humiliated and ended up leaving and going to college elsewhere. I think the greatest thing dividing us, or keeping us from exploration is fear, albeit an irrational fear. Many of the BW that I know say that the absolute worse fear that they have would be being used by a WM to fulfill some sexual fantasy, and tossing them aside once they've had their fill. Let's face it we have all heard the quip by some WM, "do what you need to do, just don't take her home to mama!"

Humiliation is a powerful thing. Who wants to go through something like that. Investing time, energy, and emotion in a relationship only to find out that you were a cheap thrill, or simply satisfying a curiosity. But can't the same be said about being with a BM.

That works in both directions. Some BW are curious and try it out, test the waters see what its like if you will. Another big issue for many of the BW that I have spoken with would also be public acknowledgement. Dating is one thing, it is awkward initially because all eyes are on you for whatever reason. Once you move into the realm of "Relationship," I want that man to walk with me proudly with his head up high, as if to say "Yes, this is my woman!"

I saw this video on Classical One's blog and it expressed perfectly what I wanted to say in today's blog. It is just too cute!

"Ain't I a Woman?" I Know I am!

...That man over there says that women need to be helped into carriages, and lifted over ditches, and to have the best place everywhere. Nobody ever helps me into carriages, or over mud-puddles, or gives me any best place! And ain't I a woman? - Sojourner Truth

Lately, I've heard all of this talk surrounding why women should support Hillary Clinton for president simply based on the fact that she is a woman. I even heard that Oprah had gotten admonished by NOW because of her support of Senator Barack Obama. Well shame on the National Organization for Women. The last time I checked they spoke up for black women, namely the Rutgers Basketball team, only after being asked about the incident. They have been fairly silent on issues that affect AA woman. And to garner support for Hillary based on womanhood would be just as ridiculous as supporting Obama based on blackness.

Let's be honest, the blackness of the AA woman has always superseded her womanhood. Early on when the Suffrage movement was in full effect they only used black woman to speak to further their cause to secure their rights. Many sat idly by for the next 40 years before black women finally obtained full voting privileges in the south. Seems like we have been misused before in the woman ploy, but not this time, we've been bundled into the African American demographic when the media slices and dissects the who's voting for who. We don't get much interest in our voting patterns as women. So be it!

On the (Woman) front we don't get much interest or respect either. I can't tell the number of times a door has swung into my face, because some man (black or white) failed to keep it open for me. I am traditional and believe that this is what a gentleman would do. None the less, I am constantly pondering the question of AA womanhood. While our counterparts of every ethnicity have traditionally been well taken care of, helped into carriages, and lifted over ditches and such, we have basically had to do everything for ourselves. We have had to make the best places for ourselves. While a great many ww have been benefactors of the NFL, the NBA and whatever other financially prosperous organization, bw have had to educate themselves, procure careers and lead the household, with no confetti, praise or kudos.

I guess I just look forward to the day when bw are honored, and put up on the proverbial pedestal. It is our turn right? To be lavished and adorned with gifts and care, to get equal pay to our counterparts, because in many fields they make a great deal more money for the same job. I look forward to being petted and consoled at my every whimper. I want men of all ethnicity's to see bw for the human beings that they are, before they misjudge her as a loud obnoxious bw contributing nothing of value to society. We want the loyalty that some bw so readily reserve for bm that is often unwarranted. BW have a lot to give, and it is so totally being missed out on. One day soon, and I believe the time is now, someone will be up for the challenge to give bw what they have so long deserved. Which is...Sojourner alluded to it.